Decidely
Unless we speak from experience
then it is only words or theory.
But when one shares in words
about the experience of our own
it is still theory for the reader.
Anyway,
with clarity yesterday it dawn on me
the importance of quickly Letting Go, ie forgiving.
Life is short
Time should be used as it is gold
only on that which matter to our growth
mine is on creativity nowadays.
Yet when I keep thinking about the whys and why nots
of extended family members which are not really behaving in a loving way
then I am putting in myself a block.
Firstly, by not using time for something creative and valuable to me
Secondly, by wasting my power on petty matters which would drain me of my time and energy
which obviously won't be allocated to the above.
This is not by all means a petty matter.
Because then, this attitude becomes a habit and a bad mannered obsession.
Even though we know initially, we are just toying and playing with thoughts,
at the end the thoughts become our box and we are jailed and limited by it.
As density definitely jails us.
That feeling being considered.
I quickly let go and forgave.
Which creates a space in mind and emptiness.
As the other party is forgiven
it cannot hook onto me anymore
as it exists no more in my fractal universe within.
And as it is incapable of pure love
then there is nothing for it to hook onto.
Either way.
This is how forgiveness is your best protection.
Not forgiving creates a bridge for the other party to send its thoughts to you
which are not fruitful to you.
And love being rarely existant, you can't expect anything good coming.
Hence you are free to look for that elsewhere
as your attention is free.
Finally; the second insight which dawn upon me
is that each era has its building block and focal point.
In this era, family, mariage and children is the last of them.
Expansion is the first and foremost.
People marry for a lesser gain
than if they were to cultivate themselves for the ultimate freedom.
In no way, I can see, in this era, a greater benefit in marriage which is more like for most people
trying to fill up a void or just follow the tradition.
Hence even in this era, benefit is mostly found out of family
Family being karma
after a while and stage of growth
you need to expand your branches out
to exchange and water and be watered by such wondful creative people
the world is filled with.
Only self created shackles to cater for comfort and security
have become the very means of our slavery to a very boring an dull routine
in the least or of useless headaches in the worst case scenario.
The blessings of a true marriage of souls exist
but does not need the form to exist
as the Spirit does not need the body to Be
though it is necessary for Itself to be expressed through it.
Likewise Spirit does not need a paper; religious, ritualist mariage to exist
as it is neither a cause nor a consequence of forms
and always pre existed and will continue to post exist these
Yet it is the Key to the growth and sanctity of a mariage.
But if you lack the sanctity and the intention of self improvement
based on the Let go/forgiveness which is the ultimate condition for final purification
you cannot benefit from any form be it mariage or family
they too would fail despite having initially taken the Spirit as Witness to their form.
Because Spirit is not bound by the forms
but is there to bless the forms.
And if we take no responsibility
to clear the way by forgiving
the path will always remain blocked
and the mud will keep accummulating.
Two pools of mud getting married
can only create more mess really.
Again, this is in worst case scenario;
In the best scenario, they would be blessed with growth
if the above is followed.
Unfortunately, I never saw two people
being identified as Spirit after mariage
but rather being identified as husband and wife
as parents as other one or two roles at best if they have grown wider.
But it dawns now on me
wouldn't it be beautiful
to witness a mariage of True Minds?
as Shakespeare would say.
Let it be no impediement to the mariage of True Minds.
.....
Sonnet 116: Let me not to the marriage of true minds
When I think of it
That Sonnet I did bear it to the edge of doom.
That definitely, the Spirit knows.
But as a Phoenix I have risen ... again.
That I can say,
I was truly reborn and given a new life.
Waiting now; for my ultimate rebirth.
